American culture now prioritizes winning, and being famous, above doing the right thing and being a good friend. I don’t see that as an intellectual threat so much as I see it as a moral and spiritual threat.
How in your view this threat should be addressed?
Parents must thoughtfully and mindfully offer a different model. Parents should make it clear that doing the right thing is more important than winning. That begins with something as simple as the mark a child receives on an examination. Tell your child, “I would rather you get a low mark on the examination, rather than cheat and get a perfect mark.” Don’t take for granted that kids know that. There has been an explosion of cheating in the United States over the past 20 years, which I document in my book The Collapse of Parenting, in part because so many parents now emphasize winning, getting a good mark on the test, above being honest.
In your last book, The Collapse of Parenting, you argue that parents are increasingly abdicating their authorities in recent times. Why has the role of families changed in the modern Western societies? What would be the role of communities and the state to remedy this situation and to restore the role of families? What positive role could the state play in creating an environment that supports the “little platoons”?
The German sociologist Norbert Elias wrote about some of the big changes which occurred in the family in the second half of the 20th century. Among the changes he wrote about was the transfer of authority from parents to children. European parents no longer know what authority they have. He used the term Statusunsicherheit to describe contemporary parents. Parents today are uncertain, insecure, about their authority. More recently, Frank Furedi, a professor of sociology at the University of Kent, has studied the collapse of authority, including parental authority, in an article showing how this process began back in the 1930s and has flowered today.You ask about the role of the state in restoring the family. I don’t see much role for the state, except perhaps to abstain from mandating the teaching of gender fluidity in the elementary schools. The restoration of the family has to begin in the family and the community, not with government. I wrote The Collapse of Parenting in hopes of encouraging fellow parents to step up to the challenge.